Preparation

Dear Beloved, Hearers and Doers,

I have had this one word on my mind for a little while now. I have heard some people say they have gotten a word and not really understand it. I think I do now with the word preparation. The definition of preparation is the action or process of making ready or being made ready for use or consideration. YAH's plan is in place. Then we prepare for the plan and perform. The best way to prepare for something is to not focus on perfection. There has to be practice before there is perfection.

When preparing, you have to let go of what others might think of you. Think about Noa (Noah in Eʋe/Ewe), he could not be sitting there thinking about what others thought about him, he had to get his family. YAH's family. Enjoy the time of building, it took Noa time. In that time it takes us time to learn, process, understand and internalize.

Many are given pieces of the plan. It is sometimes called our calling and/or our purpose. YAH hands out these pieces to us to hold close to us to prepare our hearts, our minds, our soul and His Spirit. Which we hold deep in us and if we seek we will find that deep love inside of us.

Once you think you're prepared, go over it again and one more time. Give yourself a limit, usually three times works. Otherwise you're going over it, over, and over again wasting energy instead of taking that time and energy to put it into action. 

Proverbs 16:1 ~ The preparation of the heart in a man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the Lord. 

Ephesians 6:15 ~ And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;

Luke 22:7-9 ~ Then came the day of unleavened bread, when the passover must be killed. And he sent Peter and John, saying, Go and prepare us the passover, that we may eat.

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Gossip

 

Dear Beloved Hearers and Doers, 

      The topic is gossip.  It is very important to pay attention to the words that come out of your mouth. In one conversation about someone else can be detrimental.  It could break the very best relationship that someone could have. 

      In the words that you are sharing it is important to use the T-H-I-N-K model. Is it True? Is it Helpful? Is it Inspiring? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind? 

       At the end of the day, did you choose to listen to gossip? Did you take the time to assess the person who is gossiping? Are their words just projection? The first type of projection is displacing ones feelings onto another person.  The second type of projection is, defensive projection. This is a person who constantly bullies and ridicules a peer about their insecurities, projecting low self-esteem onto the other person. 

     When a piece of gossip can hurt someone pass their core and effect them at their roots, it takes a long time for those wounds to heal. When we look internally at our nervous and circulatory system it resembles roots and branches of a tree. When the roots are effected and/ or infected, it can cause a rotting like a tree. Don't let others be a fungi to your roots.  A tree should be planted in a location where it can thrive. Certain trees grow and survive in a certain climate. Find your tree stake, that will hold you so tight like a tree tie to support you in your growth.

Proverbs 11:11 ~ By the blessing of the upright the city is exalted: but it is overthrown by the mouth of the wicked. 

Proverbs 12:18 ~ There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health. 

Proverbs 13:3 ~ He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.   

Proverbs 16:20 ~  He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusteth in the Lord, happy is he. 

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Attention

 

Dear Beloved Hearers and Doers, 

        I am sharing this song that was created during the pandemic.  From this experience where was our attention?  Or were we the ones looking for the attention? Did we focus and seek YAH?  Where we building the relationship more and more with Yahshua?  Or where we preoccupied with every media source that we could get our hands on?  YAH wants us to make a decision to know our needs, to meet our wants and for those to reach their glory through Him.        

In the decision making process start with a list of pros and cons. Then evaluate the right and wrong.  What are the facts?  What has not worked in the past?  What are the options and what solutions will work. Then the bold steps to take for the over all solution. 

From this to stay in a positive mindset.  When things take a turn to remember the grace that we have been given. 

Isiah 55:6 -7 ~ Seek ye the Lord while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near:  Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our YAH, for he will abundantly pardon. 

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Anger & What It Is Telling You

 

I recently did a study on Anger Management because it is an emotion that is often pushed down or has become a normal emotion for some to have. What is most important is to look at yourself and how you respond to anger and to understand the physical effects on the body.  How is your body when you get angry?  

Most of the time you can see when someone is angry. There are times when it is hard to tell because some people spend so much time masking their emotions; it is hard to tell what they are feeling. Sometimes it is hard for them to recognize or process their own feelings for themselves. With some people their anger comes out as numbness. Which can be frustrating for another person in the relationship, especially if it is followed by avoidance. 

In everybody there is not the same response.  Some people get a chemical response with a surge of adrenaline and some people will get a non-adrenaline response. I have witnessed that it could be a completely different response with a person. If you are in the presence of a person you don’t have a surge of anger but if you're at a distance you do have a surge of anger.  

A lot of times anger has a root of hurt and pain attached to it. Then heated discussions come up and that is the only way the truth comes out. Sometimes results in someone walking away angry.

Another type of anger is passive aggressive anger. When someone gets offended by something you said or the person will avoid direct and clear communication, feigning compliance with requests, sarcasm and backhanded compliments. They may display the same negative behavior to make you upset. This can be a very destructive behavior for both people in the relationship.

At the end of the day it is not worth it to stay upset at anyone. Time is precious! Anger has such a strong effect on the body of teeth grinding, temperature flushing that throws off your body temperature. It can do internal damage to your organs and raise your blood pressure. Everything is connected. Let love be the emotion that you search for and not anger.

Proverbs 19:11 ~ A person's wisdom yields patience; it is to one's glory to overlook an offense.

Ephesians 4:26 ~ Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:

Proverbs 15:1 ~ soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Seasons of Age in the 7 Approaches to Healing

 

Dear Beloved, Hearers and Doers,

      This is the Second to the Seven Approaches of Healing, The Seasons of Age. The first season is Spring including the ages 0-14.  During this first season of growth in our life we learn trust and mistrust.  When to take initiative and the feeling of guilt. During this time we start to apply our work ethic.  

     In the second season is Summer including the ages of 15-24. We began to explore our identity. To look at our social roles. At this season there is concern about the future. Thinking about college/university or if we choose to learn on the job.  If we  stay home or move away.  We begin to explore our freedom.

      In the third season is Fall including ages 25-64. In this season we explore if we can truly love.  Learn how to resolve conflicts.  Will we have intimacy or choose isolation.  In picking isolation and lack of activity, there is lack of growth in development. Looking at what we want to commit to. At points in this season the question of, "is this the road that will take us where we need to go? " How have and how are we giving back to the community? How are we contributing to society as a whole.

     In the fourth season is Winter including 65 & Beyond.  In this season we review and reflect and question our life.  How have we done?  At this time the focus is how being older will look like and feel like.  The relationship with our own body.  The relationships that we have or have passed on. The legacy that we leave behind us. How have we been on our road of maturity.  Have we healed in our Mind, our Spirit and our Soul.

     In the seasons of our life, we have a time of reflection to pause look back and keep marching forward. If we take too long to reflect we are just marching in place.  Everything is one step at a time. In walking up those steps we learn to endure. To use our strength. If we can't see one of those steps, the reliance is obeying in faith.  That is when we see our confidence in understanding and full potential. 

Let love overflow in every cell of your body!

Daniel 2: 21-22 ~ And He changeth the times and the seasons: He removeth kings, and setteth up kings: He giveth wisdom unto the wise, and knowledge to them that know understanding: He reveals deep and hidden things; He knows what lies in darkness, and light dwells with Him.  

Taking Responsibility in the 7 Approaches to Healing

 

Dear Beloved, Hearers and Doers,

      This is the first to the Seven Approaches of Healing, starting with taking responsibility. The motivation of sharing these approaches is in hope that others will heal by overcoming this time and rise in your growth.  This will cover: Responsibility, Seasons of Age, Awareness, Acceptance, Communication, Optimism Of Things Can Change, and Positive Mindset Transformation. Then bringing it all together to step up and step out in love to connect. 

      In taking responsibility, it is about being responsible in all areas of your life.  Enjoy by grabbing and holding onto the moment. Finding what you love and to feel the achievement of your purpose. Think about the destination and know the direction while enjoying the ride. The direction is to see your best self.  To be responsible is to measure the targets and the results in your life. 

     There is a responsibility of knowing your own emotions. To know your limits. Notice when you are pushing yourself too much and when to take a break.  Have the ability to observe boundaries and set boundaries. To understand your minimum and maximum levels of emotion. There has to be a responsibility of trust with yourself to trust your instincts and have faith in your instincts.        

     Taking responsibility of the thoughts and emotions that floats through your body. Stop reacting and start to analyze your initial responses. Holding on to areas in your life where healing points to the direction of happiness. Not to blame others and not allowing worries to stall your life. Look at your efforts you put forth.  Look at how you spent your time, determines what you value. Asking yourself, "What is your value system?"

Choose to interpret what has happened to help you and not harm you. Your Healing Approach is your Responsibility. 

Let love overflow in every cell of your body! 

Ezra 10:4 ~ Arise, for it is your task, and we are with you; be strong and do it."

 

Conclusion & Reflection Wellness Session

Dear Beloved, Hearers and Doers,

      The Conclusion & Reflection Wellness Session of  LADY wellness coaching. This session will be to sit down and bring it all together.  To apply all of the wellness sessions to everyday life.  To sow seeds to grow.  To be the best version of yourself.  What person do you want to see, the reflection of yourself? 

     From this process to be solution and future-focused.  Work towards outcomes.  Have a desire to learn new things.  Being eager to take risks.  Looking at what else can I approve and exam the work that is being put forth.  

      Are you using your gifts?  If you are still discovering your gifts think about what you were dreaming of being when you were younger.  What is your walking mission? What is your contribution?

      Is there somewhere in your life that you want to turn a new leaf?  With your change and new opportunities that you would not sabotage the opportunities. That you would end any negative cycle and move forward in only growth.  Is there an attitude change that you want to make?  Where is your fresh start?  

     To do this use your time wisely.  Give meaning to your time.   Design a plan of action.  With creating targets to hit daily/weekly/monthly and yearly.  What would be your great success?  

       Have a clear vision and commit to it.  Make your dream(s) come alive.  Plan everything out with a  plan for success.  Write it out, make a document of what your plan is.  Put your thoughts into design.   In that document how will your time be used?  Plan the rest of your life.  Let someone meet you in your plan that shares your vision.  Make a road map.  In this think of what the toll will be, for example like a toll road.  What will be the cost?  What will it cost you in time, energy, resources, money, and relationship(s).  In doing this have your destination in mind.  

Self -Reflection in bringing it all together 

1. What person do you want to see, the reflection you want to see?  To see someone that can walk anywhere in confidence. 

2. Are you using your gifts?  Yes, I am using them in different areas of my life.

3.  What is your walking mission?  To meet others where they are and to stand and walk together. 

4.  What is your contribution?  While adding and growing myself, I share how I grew. 

5.   Is there somewhere in your life that you want to turn a new leaf?  To make changes in areas of my life that don't grow me.

6.   Is there an attitude change that you want to make?  Bringing a positive attitude to everything.

7.  Where is your fresh start?  To look at each day as a fresh start. 

8.  What would be your great success?  To accomplish everything that I have been called to do. 

9.  What will be the cost?  It will take time and energy. 

LADY Wellness Foundation Scriptures ~

2 Corinthians 1:17 ~ Therefore, when I was planning this, did I do it lightly? Or the things I plan, do I plan according to the flesh, that with me there should be Yes, Yes and No, No? 

Proverbs 16:3 ~ Commit to your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.

Proverbs 15:22 ~ Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed. 

Proverbs 16:1 ~ The plans of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord. 

Proverbs 16:9 ~ The heart of a man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.

Please take this and allow it to grow you and strengthen you with all my Love and Shalom.